was reading the Commentary/Analysis section of the straits times just now when a few lines from one of the articles I had been reading, caught my fancy. Sometimes, the words of a competent writer, who is pronouncing grains of human truth, seem to jump out from a particular page and succeed in touching some sensitive nerve in the deepest recesses of my jaded mind, causing it to reverberate with discordant activity; this is one such occasion.
"True intimacy... begins with people coming to terms with who they really are and what they actually do think and feel -- as opposed to what they should think and feel -- and then being willing to approach one another with such honest, if not always welcome, information... Real relationship involves having a place to go with one's not-so-pretty thoughts. Real relationship involves being able to to bring one's ambivalent feelings out into the open, and to do so with a sense of safety, which in turn must derive from the knowledge that one will be heeded and attended to..."Perhaps this is the gist of the issues that afflict today's failed marriages and relationships. However, although I concede that maintaining a "truthful" intimacy and effective communication are the keypoints in establishing a lasting and satisfying relationship, I feel that the level of mutual attraction and chemistry (physical & mental) between the two parties are also important determining factors.
oh well... before I start rambling again, I'd better call it quits for now or else I'd be late for my appointment later.. ;p
